This past week and half have been full of loss and love.
My dear sister, we are chosen sisters from different mothers, you know the ones you knew in heaven, husband died March 14th. I was there right away to comfort and help for the next few days. This was a blessed opportunity for me to serve. I love her and her sweet children. Our children have been raised closer than cousins.
Then on Friday, the 18th I was catching up on laundry, learning to ride a quad and normal household things when I got a call from my brother’s Dr. explaining he was having complication from gall bladder surgery the night before. My brother has had many serious health issues for most of his life.
A couple of hours later another Dr. called to ask me to give my permission to refuse life support. My brother was failing fast and they wanted to innabate, but he was refusing. I had medical power of attorney and Danny was too medicated to make that decision.
This was the hardest decision I have ever had to make. I was able to talk with him on the phone, sharing my love and telling him what is would be like. I died in 2001, but that’s story is for another time.
Danny passed a couple of hours later. He held on long enough for my mother to get there from the airport.
This past week and half were filled with arrangement, funeral, travel, a wake, memorial service and more travel.
It has been wonderful that all seven of my children came to California to be with Scott and I. We had not all been together for six years. It was wonderful to see family and friends.
My brother was one of my dearest friends! He never married. He was a character. Always joking and he had a heart as big as he is. I will greatly miss him until we meet again.
I am now taking care of my brother’s estate as his executor. And am going to take some time in the next week or so to be gentle with myself and grieve. So Tune-In Tuesdays may not be on schedule and I hope you will have patience with me.
~There is no grief without love.